At the Integrative Therapy Institute we provide treatment for children of all ages and for adolescents, and we also offer parent counseling. Our parent counseling sessions may be with parents alone, or they may be sessions with parents and children together, in which we teach and practice specific techniques such as limit-setting or active listening. In some cases we alternate the two. We usually offer parent counseling along with individual treatment for a child or adolescent, but sometimes we feel that parent counseling sessions by themselves will be sufficient.
Parent counseling is most often needed in the areas of discipline and communication. When people become parents they quickly realize that their children don’t always do what they want, and they usually respond to this either by following their own emotional reactions to this, or by copying the behaviors of their own parents. Sometimes this works, and sometimes it doesn’t.
When it doesn’t work, we will teach you what does. We teach parents to set clear limits with clear consequences that are not too severe. We also teach parents not to get upset while doing this because discipline is a normal part of being a parent. In general we recommend setting up a family structure that is neither adult-centered nor child-centered, but rather is fairness-centered. We find that this prevents feelings of either alienation or over-entitlement from developing in children, while fostering both the spirit and the skills of cooperation.
With communication, we teach parents how to
listen and ask questions in a way that keeps
lines of communication open. We teach parents
to avoid being judgmental in a way that is
shaming or demeaning, but also to render judgments in ethical areas when needed.
We also offer counseling to parents in specific areas such as learning disabilities, ADHD, autistic spectrum disorders, and psychiatric disorders. With adolescents, we also offer parent counseling on sexual issues, alcohol and substance use issues, and college admissions.
Thomas B. Hollenbach, Ph.D.
For parents seeking counseling, the Integrative Therapy Institute of New Jersey has two offices, one in Metuchen in Middlesex County, and the other in Montclair in Essex County. Our Metuchen office is convenient to the Middlesex County towns of Edison, Woodbridge, South Plainfield, Piscataway, Highland Park, New Brunswick, East Brunswick, Sayreville, Dunellen, and Middlesex. For residents of Union County, the Metuchen office is near to the towns of Scotch Plains, Clark, Westfield, Plainfield, Garwood, and Fanwood. For residents of Somerset County we are near to the towns of North Plainfield, Green Brook, Bound Brook, South Bound Brook, Bridgewater, and Franklin, New Jersey.
Our Montclair office is convenient to the Essex County towns of Glen Ridge, Cedar Grove, Verona, Essex Fells, Bloomfield, Nutley, Caldwell, North Caldwell, and West Caldwell. Slightly farther away are Fairfield, Roseland, Livingston, Milburn, Orange, East Orange, and South Orange. For residents of Passaic County, we are near to the towns of Clifton, Little Falls, Woodland Park, and Totowa, New Jersey.
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